Stay deliberate under pressureRecognise the internal reaction before it controls the interaction.
Read and adapt to the personUse behaviour and emotion as information without treating them as certainty.
Listen so people feel heardUse active listening and empathy to understand and demonstrate perspective.
Empathise without prematurely agreeingTake the person and their experience seriously without making an early factual finding.
Clarify without interrogatingMove from labels and assumptions toward enough information for the next decision.
Manage resistance strategicallyLook for the concern underneath resistance before simply pushing harder.
Move into accountabilityHold empathy, standards, boundaries and responsibility at the same time.
Recognise role, authority and obligationKnow when to continue, seek advice or move responsibility into organisational process.
Make proportionate decisionsMatch the response to the information, seriousness, risk and responsibilities involved.
Communicate through processMaintain clarity, dignity and appropriate involvement when control is limited.
Close the human loopRecognise that the formal process may end before the human impact does.